This is the new dating term you need to know about ‘Love Bombing’
First, we had Ghosting, then Kittenfishing and Roaching, but this savage new dating trend is yet another obstacle that singletons have to deal with this year. Unfortunately, this could be the most manipulative tactic yet and it’s called Love bombing.
What is Love bombing?
Love bombing is a seductive tactic, where a manipulative person tries to control another individual with “bombs”, from day one.
If you have someone declaring their undying love to you after only a couple of weeks, step back and ask yourself; ‘Am I about to be a victim of what it’s known as ‘love bombing’?
According to Dale Archer, a psychiatrist and author, love bombing is where you are showered with affection, gifts, and promises for the future, making you believe you may have discovered love at first sight. Someone is loving, caring, affectionate, and seems to just “get” you. Things progress really quickly, and you start to wonder whether this is what you’ve been missing all along.
Everything happens so quick, that the victim is left with little time to assess if they are being dubbed. Things take a turn when you start paying attention to other things in your life. Evidence of frustration and anger starts to show, a side of them you didn’t see before. They will become mean and belittle you and they become emotionally and psychologically abusive. Love bombing is the reinforcement, where the abuser showers you with love if you act how they want you to.
Love bombers are manipulative people who hook up their victims by showering them with attention first. And then proceed to devalue them especially when they focus on other aspects of their life that are also important to them.
Archer makes a very good point, healthy relationships build up slowly and couples should maintain healthy friendships with friends and family.
Maintain friendships and family relationships, be outspoken about your needs and wants in a new relationship and always take it slow. Finally, remember to stop, look, and listen.
If you feel you are walking on eggshells and feel like you are losing your sense of self, it’s time to step back and cut off from the relationship.
Archer urges people to remember the advice: ‘If it seems too good to be true, it probably is.’