Your Smart Phone is Ruining Your Relationship
In this day and age, every man and his dog has a smart phone – or at least an Instagram account, seriously the amount of dogs I see on there is alarming…Unlike those cute dogs, your smart phone isn’t always your best friend. In fact, when it comes to relationships, they can be a curse. You may not realise it but your smart phone is ruining your relationship. Don’t believe me? Read on…
I’m not going to pretend that I’m not guilty of this one myself – hopping into bed, but instead of turning to my significant other (SO) and snuggling up for a little cuddle time, I decide I’ll just quickly check my Facebook notifications…then my Instagram…then my Pinterest…Next thing I know an hour has passed by and it’s way past bedtime with no time for cuddles or anything more amorous. AND I wake up grumpy the next day from lack of sleep. Turn off that phone and turn to your SO to show them that they’re more important to you than those likes on the latest photo you posted.
Long gone are the days when you had to wait hours to have a conversation with your SO. These days, communication is immediate, and as a result, we’re becoming increasingly impatient if someone doesn’t respond to our text messages/phone calls instantly. Have you found yourself in an argument with your SO about the fact that they didn’t get back to you immediately? I know I have. And unfairly so. Don’t expect your SO to be glued to their phone and respond instantly, as that’s just likely to make them develop an addiction to their phone if they haven’t already.
How many times have you found yourself at dinner with your SO and found yourself staring at your phone rather than at them? It’s so easy to get distracted by a phone going off, or even just looking to fill a ‘lull’ in the conversation. Don’t give in to temptation – put it on silent and do NOT leave your phone on the table.
Do you find it hard to articulate yourself in a conversation face-to-face when it’s about a serious or potentially argument-causing issue? These days, we’re relying more on more on our phones to be a buffer in a way and avoiding tackling the tricky topics face to face by waiting until we can text about it instead. Be sure to discuss any serious issues with your SO face to face and leave your phone in another room, no matter how difficult it may be to do both of these things. It’s so important to have open and honest communication within a relationship and be able to show and share your feelings with each other. You’ll feel so much closer for having those tough conversations in person, trust me.