Most people spend an absurd amount of time, money and effort striving to achieve the lofty heights of sexual pleasure. They try everything, from sex toys, new positions, new lingerie, and daring new places. These things will certainly add spice to your sex life, but they are not the key to good sex.

The secret to great sex and how to improve your sex life, requires first and foremost a level of comfort and self-assurance in being in your own skin and achieving it, is not as hard as you may think.

Life sometimes takes its toll and where we started as sexual beings is very different to where we are now. Loving and feeling confident with your body is the essence of good sex.This applies both to women and men.


” Before you try to love someone else, you need to love yourself first “

Go on a journey of sexual discovery, strip down and look at your body in the mirror, appreciate its form, the good and the bad, and think about what it can do and how it makes you feel. The more you see your naked body the more you mentally embrace your body, simple but effective technique. Being in the nude reduces shame.

Here are a few tips on how to be more comfortable with your body, and in turn improve your sex life:

Sleep in the nude

First, start in a place you’re a bit more used to being naked: the bedroom. Sleeping in the buff can help bring you closer in your relationship, but it can also aid you in getting a better night’s sleep.

Trip to the nudist beach

According to science, watching naked people and being naked increases self-esteem and promotes positive body image.  It makes perfect sense that seeing other people with “normal, not perfect” bodies helps ease the insecurities you feel toward your own body.

Masturbate in front of mirror

If it has been a while since you allowed yourself to experience pleasure, because you are just too focused on how your body comes across, time for some self-love. Spend time rediscovering your body and how it likes to be touched, how it responds to certain touches and pressure. Re-learn your bodies’ ability to experience pleasure.

Since the mirrors are already in place, why not use them to please your voyeuristic tendencies. It certainly will beat any porn out there, it’s live streamed, real homemade porn happening while you both are the main stars. It can be a real turn on to see yourself being pleasured and watching your partner being pleasured by you. This will boost your confidence through the roof and reinforce body positivity.

Good sex has nothing to do with the shape and size but more with the ability to be kinder to ourselves and to stop worrying about what we look like, simply learn to let go and enjoy ourselves.

Do you have any tips to add that fostered better sex for you and your partner?